Best Kinds of Books Available for Online Dating Profile

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There is quite a bit of scientific data on what you should include and how you should present yourself in your online dating profiles if you want to increase the number of dates you get.

Lots of data is not useful. Like, did you know that people seem to associate the letters at the beginning of the alphabet with academic/intelligence? I guess that’s why it took my husband (Sean) and I (Tracy) over 30 years to find each other. We are buried in the alphabet!

Other data seems somewhat more useful. For example, studies have found the ideal ratio of talking about yourself versus talking about your potential mate: 70% you and 30% of them. They assume that it is easier for a person to connect with you if they not only understand what you like but also that you are looking for someone like them.

Finally, researchers have found that the old adage “show don’t tell” applies to fun in dating profiles, too. Don’t tell anyone you’re funny – show them. Well, this is very simple.

What I found when digging through heaps of research on this topic was that in my humble, happily married opinion, they were all focused on the wrong thing: getting dates. Yes, of course, if you use a dating app, you want to get dates. Dates can be great! They can be so cool that you might have to park because you’re laughing so hard to be able to drive safely (like on my first date with my husband).

Then again, sometimes a date can ask you how thick the walls are in your house in a very serious way (which also happened on the first date, but not with my husband). This is a less fun date.

This is why the best goal is quality over quantity. Instead of looking for ways to convert more dates, let’s look for ways to convert more quality dates. In my opinion, that means only showing your hits and paragraphs what makes you a great person! And if you’re walking around Book Riot, that means showing them the kinds of great books you’re interested in.

Obviously, I don’t know what kind of great books you’re interested in but I know which categories you’ve decided to focus on. So come with me, to the dream world of magic, where you master the art of displaying fun, cool, wit, and whatever your personality is to all those who don’t even know they’re waiting for you.

Books that show your sense of humor

Let’s start with the topic our science friends suggested for his coverage: humor. Remember that you are not trying to impress people. Impressing people may increase the number of people interested in a first date, but our goal is to find you a good date. So what we’re looking for here are books that made you laugh out loud.

I read a lot of books about and by comedians, so I can easily find some factual books that give a good indication of what makes me laugh. In fact, I did exactly that when I wrote about 15 audiobook comics to get your funny bones in shape.

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If you’re not a big fan, don’t worry. Perhaps this list of 100 funny must-read books will help refresh your memory about some works of fiction that you found funny. Maybe there’s a topic you find funny, like the fact that Ted Cruz thinks 100 soup cans is a normal amount of soup cans to buy? Is there a book on that yet? Or maybe you could focus on notes that you liked by people you thought were funny. Funny In Farsi: Memoirs of an Iranian upbringing in America by Firouzeh Duma come to mind.

The key to successfully adding books that show your sense of humor is to focus on what you find funny. Don’t fall into the trap of speculating on your own. You are not trying to impress anyone, you are simply trying to show what you like, in order to show what you like.

Books that showcase your hobbies

If you’re really into botany, you should definitely talk about it on your dating profile, but you can also use books to show how exciting your hobby is. Yes, it would be cool if you found other botany fanatics yet. But it can’t be cool to find someone like, “Oh, this guy loves botany! I didn’t know this was a hobby. Look at these books on botany that they listed, looks interesting. This guy looks interesting!” “

You might find some people who will respond more like, “Botany? Who’s the fuck in botany? Wow, and they’ve read botany books for fun?” Yes, but do you want to go out on a date with a botany hater? I’m indifferent to botany but I don’t want to go on a date that hates botany, no thank you!

As much as I would be happy to find out that a group of botany lovers were reading this, I think most readers have hobbies other than botany. If you are a fan of video games, definitely list some games, but why not also list some of your favorite video game books? Or add some of your favorite cookbooks to the list if you’re a fan of knives and fire.

Whatever your hobby, include some books about it. And if you haven’t read any books next to your hobby, may I suggest you check out some books while waiting for the matches to come out?

Books that present your political and/or philosophical views

If politics and/or philosophy are a big part of your life and worldview, adding books that align with what you believe in can be a more effective way to communicate than simply expressing your beliefs.

As a socialist, yes, I can only say that I am a socialist. I can list Communist Manifesto on my dating profile. But neither of these two steps will really showcase what my political and philosophical views are. To do this I would include Time for Socialism by Thomas Piketty, because it does a better than average job of connecting the abstract idea of ​​socialism as a philosophy with socialism as a solution to the hell we currently live in.

Of course, you’re probably somewhere to my right about this, but wherever you are, adding some books that show where you are can help you find the right people to date.

And please, if you’re a big fan of Ayn Rand, be sure to add that to your profile! This is very useful information for people who want to avoid you. prisoners! Betcha didn’t think there would be a Rand-Slam here!

Books that show what’s most important to you

I want you to take a moment and forget about dating. Forget about that hot part of the person you’re thinking of smashing lips and/or hot body parts. Forget French kissing and dry hunchback and think about this: What’s most important to you? If there’s one thing you want to know about a potential date, find some books that showcase it and then show it!

When considering which books to include on an online dating profile, it’s easy to fall into the trap of trying to organize a list that makes you look great the way you want to look great. But why don’t you look as cool as you actually are, currently so cool? I promise – you are awesome! I think you are awesome!

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Unless this lady. I don’t think it’s great. prisoners! Betcha never thought there would be another rand slam here!

Of course, you can always make a list of your favorite books. You can list books that have meant a lot to you, that have changed your view of the world, or that have made you feel warm and mysterious. And do it, I dare you!

But also, I challenge you to take some time and think about what the books your narratives show about you. Think about what you want people to know and how a cleverly curated list of books can show you rather than tell them how much you are.

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